The 6 Month Wait….

My goodness it feels like forever since I last wrote…oh wait it has been. For that I apologize; I am not one for excuses so we will just leave it at that.

Part of me wants to apologize for my last post. I feel like I sounded like a winey selfish brat. With that said, what I wrote was raw emotion that I was feeling at that time. I have had time to process, come to terms and move forward. I understand how lucky I am that my body was responding to treatments, that we have only been trying a year in contrast to other couples yearS. I have yet to hear that this won’t work and that I can’t have kids. In reality I have been lucky in my journey compared to so many others.

Two weeks after the news my husband and I went in for a visit with our doctor. The first question out of her mouth was; “well what questions do you have”. Having done some research prior to the appointment I was aware of what we were looking at for money and understood the general idea of what the procedure would entail. In the end I will do and pay whatever as long as I get the chance at having a baby; so in normal me fashion I sat quiet. My husband, with no hesitation, asked “what are we looking at for money.” Ugh, I was so embarrassed; I understand this is a legitimate concern but couldn’t we have worked up to that? Couldn’t he have asked what all the procedure entailed first or how long it will take? Oh well I guess it is what it is.

We discussed what insurance would cover and having already burned through almost all of my allowance for this year it was decided it would be more practical to wait until January for IVF in order to fully utilize our insurance benefits. My doctor thought this was the best plan and made some comment like “it’s not like you are in a rush.” No, I am not technically in a rush. I am young and healthy, my situation is not a now or never BUT would I like to keep going…YUP. My husband and doctor won the battle, we will wait, save money, enjoy the 7 weddings we have left this year and pray the next 6 months fly by (I feel like between Weddings, grooms dinners, showers, back parties and holidays it has to right?)! Am I happy about it…NO…do I understand the importance of waiting….yes.

I worked out the scheduling and hope to start birth control in December. Since I have to be on it for three weeks I am working to time it so I can get in for my baseline at the beginning of January once our insurance allowance is re-stocked.

So there you have it. That is the only update I have because our journey has officially his a financial road block. Oh man what am I going to write about for the next 6 months? 

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5 thoughts on “The 6 Month Wait….

  1. shell says:

    I know how difficult it can be to wait. We knew we needed IVF two years before we got a referral. However the time allowed us to prepare, to plan, to get as healthy as we could which really helped improve things for both of us. Made it easier to follow a restricted diet after transfer as well eg no caffeine. I would start prenatals now for the folic acid. Good luck!

    • jdubbelde13 says:

      Two year, ugh I couldn’t imagine; see I really don’t have it as bad as I like to make myself believe. I am so sorry you had to wait so long. I have been taking the prenatals for about two years now so nothing new there. I should cut out my weekday one cup of morning coffee though. Thank you for the luck. We will need it!

  2. Write about life. As life continues even when we are faced with the struggle of infertility. Enjoy your break. As much as it doesn’t seem like it, December will be here before you know it.

    • jdubbelde13 says:

      Sadly I just don’t think this introverts life is worth writing about. I will continue to write but I can’t promise the content will be overwhelmingly interesting :). I know the months will go fast; most of our weekends are already filled. Good luck on your upcoming IVF by the way. I am wishing you the very best and sending good juju your way!!!

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